...if we be honest with ourselves,
we shall be honest with each other.  ~ George MacDonald

Jesus Wept 

Jesus Wept


"Love is an involuntary response to virtue." 

But what if you fall in love with someone who lacks virtue? Did they lie to you? Did you know the truth about them before falling in love? If you did it says something about your own values and your wisdom.

The truth is that a good man is more likely to attract a good woman than a bad man is, and a good woman is more likely to attract a good man than a bad woman is.

If the statistics in that video are accurate, what should we do? 

Well, it might be a good idea to wait just a little bit longer before getting married. How many people would have not got married if they waited just another 6 months? Time is our friend (though it can feel like an enemy). Time will reveal things about the person you're fond of that nothing else can. Given time, their true colours will come out.

It might be a good idea to also not go out of your way to talk to someone you're attracted to. (Attraction to a person can grow stronger even without talking to them. And it may lead to love.) 

A wise woman once said, "Character is observable from a distance." If a man or woman is a good person, you should be able to pick that up from how they talk with others and how they deal with them. If a man treats other women badly, chances are he will treat you badly. If he is dishonest with others, it will only be a matter of time before he is dishonest with you. It might seem like you're shooting yourself in the foot by not going out of your way to talk to him or her, but is it really honest to go out of your way to talk with a stranger of the opposite sex if your heart is not set on them? A lot of hearts have been broken that way. Guard your heart. Watch and wait. When a man's heart is set on a lady, then he will do all he can to win her. No games, no lies. He's in. Such a man will not shy from marriage; it's the thing he seeks. Why? Because he loves her.


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